I recently got a new haircut. While having lunch with a friend she questioned whether it was professional enough for work. My initial response was to explain the dress code. On second thought, I realized that I’d never considered the office dress code when getting the haircut because it’s my hair. Who should have the power to dictate what I do to my hair other than me? The whole exchange reminded me of how often people make decisions based upon the rules and expectation of others.

In the grand scheme of things we spend a significant portion of our lives meeting the needs and expectations of others. There’s the spouse, the kids, the job, the extended family, friends, church groups, social clubs, etc. The list could probably go on depending on your commitments to othe