I recently got a new haircut. While having lunch with a friend she questioned whether it was professional enough for work. My initial response was to explain the dress code. On second thought, I realized that I’d never considered the office dress code when getting the haircut because it’s my hair. Who should have the power to dictate what I do to my hair other than me? The whole exchange reminded me of how often people make decisions based upon the rules and expectation of others.
In the grand scheme of things we spend a significant portion of our lives meeting the needs and expectations of others. There’s the spouse, the kids, the job, the extended family, friends, church groups, social clubs, etc. The list could probably go on depending on your commitments to others. Each of these relationships or groups requires particular attention, energy, time, and effort.
Where do you fit into all of that?
How many times have you limited yourself because what you wanted didn’t fit the socially accepted behavior of your affiliations?
When was the last time you actually did what you wanted to do when you wanted to do it?
If these questions return answers you don’t like then today, I give you permission to explore & implement change in your life. There is no one else to consider but YOU. Money isn’t an issue. Obligations to others don’t exist. The only invested interest to consider is YOUR OWN.
What Do You Want?!
What outdated views do you need to let go of to be feel happy?
What emotions would you like to experience more of (i.e. peaceful, grateful, loving)?
What changes do you want to see in your body (i.e. lower cholesterol, more muscles)?
What changes would you like to see in your home (i.e. new paint, happier vibe)?
What fun thing would you like to do for yourself but are afraid to because of what someone may say?
Seriously, what do you want? BREAK the PATTERN of limiting your experience to what is socially acceptable. Figure out what is PERSONALLY ACCEPTABLE to you. You DESERVE to have whatever it is you come up with. Make yourself a priority in your lift by BLESSING yourself as much or even greater than you bless others. I’ll leave you with a quote from Marianne Williamson as you explore the inner workings of you.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.