Several years ago, I had the opportunity to do some shadow work. For those of you that don’t know what I mean, let me tell you. Each of us has light aspects also known as positive traits and characteristics. We also have a shadow side also known as the ego or negative traits and characteristics.
Many leaders in the wellness community have provided perspective and techniques on addressing egoic or shadow self.
Eckhardt Tolle teaches techniques on observing the ego rather than reacting to it in ourselves and others.
Carolyn Myss has a more aggressive no nonsense approach of facing your shadow and shifting.
Iyanla Vanzant loves to call a thing a thing. Thereby shedding light on it and addressing it accordingly.
Debbie Ford teaches us to replace stuffing our emotions with acceptance and the curiosity to follow them to their origin.
The common denominator from all them is at some point we must face our shadow. Most of us would rather live in the light and completely ignore our darkness. In my opinion, this is one of the reasons people spend so much time and money entertaining & distracting themselves – TV, Movies, Alcohol, Drugs, Sex, Shopping, Gossip, etc. When it gets too still, too quiet we hear the voice of our deepest fears, guilts, and shames gnawing and clawing at our minds. So, we spin our wheels, our heels, and our money on distractions rather than face our own ego.
I recall being reminded and challenged to get over my fear of the darkness. At the time, I was a member of a group of women that meet on a monthly basis to fellowship and share spiritual truths. During one of our meetings, the “shadow” was our topic. When the facilitator shared the agenda, the very words shadow and dark side completely freaked me out. All my fearful good Baptist church girl childhood beliefs came rushing to the surface. Eventually, the facilitator explained the shadow we would address was not something or someone else’s but rather our own. OUCH! Well all I could do was sit there and unpack my SHIT like veryone else in the room....LOL.
News Flash! The demons you fear are rejected and unintegrated aspects of YOU. They don't go away just because you ignore them. To evolve past the fear of your own nightmares you must CONFRONT YOUR DARKNESS, glean and adhere to its wisdom. Only then can you truly release the fear.